Stormy landscape by Penry Williams (1855-1885)
can i talk my shit again. yall love fat people when theyre like 200 lbs and "somft" but can we get some positivity posts for people who are like 400 and having trouble getting off the floor. who have tried everything and cant drop more than 20 pounds. yes fat people are beautiful and awesome but can we talk about 4/5x more instead of just xxl. for the love of god. can we talk about those of us who cant get merch of our favorite creators bc it only goes up to 3x.
CAN WE TALK ABOUT STILL FINDING YOURSELF PRETTY AS A FAT PERSON. CAN WE TALK ABOUT BEING 375 AND CUTE AS SHIT BUT EVERYONES FUCKING PUT OFF BY YOU. CAN WE TALK ABOUT THAT. IM FUCKING. THIS IS PERSONAL TO ME
Yes. Exactly fucking this. We live in a society. Larger fat people are treated like toxic sludge despite being cute and wonderful and funny and (not even needing to be all these things I'm just saying, yanno, larger fat people are WORTHY FUCKING HUMAN BEINGS THE SAME AS THE THINS OR LESSER FATS)
Here's some amazing brands that are size inclusive. (This is not an ad. I am not affiliated with these people. They don't know I exist. They're just size inclusive brands.)
Cute dressies and go up to a 6x!
MORE CUTE DRESSIES THAT GO UP TO A 6XL
ALTERNATIVE FASHION THAT GOES UP TO 7XL
Swimsuits. Has gender neutral option. A few T-shirts. Alternative style. Goes up to 6XL
(And no. Me saying "dressies" isn't me being infantilizing. That's just how I talk when I see cute dressies.)
And these people use plus sized models to show off their plus sized clothing on tiktok.
-fae
There's also Rebdolls which goes up to 5x
@mayakern makes wonderful skirts that fit up to size 8X, and shirts that are up to 6X
plus the skirts have huge pockets!!
aww thanks for adding me!! id like to suggest snagtights for tights and some undies + apparel that go to i think a 5 or 6x iirc and smartglamour which goes to 10x and does custom sizing!
showing someone a movie is like fuuuuuck its bad now
some butch and stud portraits from Nothing but the Girl: The Blatant Lesbian Image by Susie Bright and Jill Posener (1,2,3,7,8,9,10) and Sublime Mutations by Del LaGrace Volcano (4,5,6)
I mean I think people should curate their own fandom experience and whatnot and it's perfectly fair to just avoid things one is uncomfortable with...
That being said. From personal experience? Immunizing myself to all my discomforts by browsing through pixiv and kink memes with raised eyebrows while searching for things I am interested in back when tagging was non-existent has really made my fandom experience much more pleasant nowadays.
I have preferences, for sure. But I have no fear. I have no cringe. The filthiest, grossest fanwork holds no powers over me. I am a god.
Like honestly dl;dr and block on sight is respectable and all but I genuinely think everyone could just benefit from purposefully exposing yourself to your nOTP and non-triggering squicks sometimes? (And obviously don't go bother the creators for it.) If only so that it makes it easier/safer to search for content you like without living in fear of accidentally glimpsing something you hate and having that ruin your day.
Training oneself to be comfortable with mild discomfort is a highly under-rated skill in this day and age
I think its interesting that "desensitized" is a dirty word now. Like...when I did my therapy, being desensitized was the GOAL. It was the fucking dream.
But also, desensitization essentially gives you the agency to say, "okay so that felt bad, now I can either put it away, really explore and understand what that discomfort is trying to tell me, or discard it." Idk...some of yall are so fucking distressed all the time and you call it "being normal" or "being a decent human being" but...it isn't normal to be distressed all the time. It isn't decent to be distressed all the time. And like...I have disords and chemical shit going on in my brain but if you don't have all that....I think you need to look at your distress and ask why it is actually enduring and who benefits from you being distressed (lessons from a pre-bush era american).
Honestly, I think it's cool to see cis people adopt and use "nonconforming" pronouns. I saw a cis man state their pronouns were they/them, and I think that's awesome that they're forthcoming with that! I think a lot of cis people think pronoun nonconformity excludes them, but they're completely wrong! Pronoun nonconformity is literally for anybody. If you are a they/them cis man, that's fucking awesome! There will be people who will respect you, and it isn't a world-ending request to be addressed correctly
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